Thursday, October 23, 2008

Vendor Review - Big Sur Bakery

We visited Big Sur about a year before we got married and scheduled a cupcake tasting with Michelle at the Big Sur Bakery. Typically, I like lemon better than chocolate, but in this case, Michelle's chocolate cupcakes were amazing! And of course, the lemon was great too, but I was definitely mesmerized by the chocolate.

We also ended up ordering a small chocolate cake (8 in.) in addition to the chocolate and lemon cupcakes. The only downside was that no one could find a cake box at the end of the night and the remnants didn't really survive the trip back to the lodge.

Michelle was really easy to work with and extremely helpful. We really enjoyed working with her. It was very stress-free, which is perfect for a wedding vendor.

On a side note, a friend of mine and her husband had dinner at Big Sur Bakery the Friday before the wedding and they raved about it! I can't wait to go back and have a proper meal there.

Photo by matirose

table numbers

I just saw these postcards at Little Otsu. Since there are 10 of them, they could make really cute table numbers.

Sunday, October 5, 2008


Here are the boutonnieres I made for the wedding. They were pretty easy. I bought the velvet leaves from circabear and the pinecones were in a bag from Target. The mushrooms were from Small Stump.

Saturday, September 27, 2008

itunes playlists

I've been meaning to post about this for so long now. One of the reasons we chose the Henry Miller Library was because we could use an iPod or even our computer (using iTunes). I spent waaaay too much time putting together playlists, but it was probably my favorite part about the wedding planning.

Here are the lists:


The bridesmaids walked in to "Somewhere Only We Know" by Keane.

Then I walked down the aisle to "Hard Sun" by Eddie Vedder.

Once the ceremony was over, we exited to "I Believe in a Thing Called Love" by The Darkness.

Our first dance as a married couple was to "You Are My Sunshine" by Elizabeth Mitchell.

Then I danced with my dad to "Moonshadow" by Cat Stevens and Troy danced with his mom to "Wildflowers" by Tom Petty.


Dance (I didn't make an effort to weed out explicit songs - we had mostly people in their early 30's, it was a bbq, and we wanted to PARTY - I realize this isn't for everyone)


This post is going to be pretty long, but I thought it might be helpful for anyone who is looking for help with their vows. Our officiant, Eva Stramer Nichols, sent us some ideas and we really liked the Buddhist vows. We made some minor modifications and added a honey ritual too. We are more spiritual than religious, so it worked perfectly for us. Eva did a fantastic job as the officiant.

Here goes...


Today, Troy and Liana promise to dedicate themselves completely to each other, with body, speech, and mind.

In this life, in every situation, in wealth or poverty, in health or sickness, in happiness or difficulty, they will work to help each other perfectly.

The purpose of their relationship will be to attain enlightenment by perfecting their kindness and compassion toward all sentient beings.

Marriage is the vehicle to practice serving others. It is a practice ground. Love is wishing others happiness.

Marriage is the equal commitment to the happiness of your partner, toward their awakening.

Our inner potential is developed through taking on challenges, not just through joy.

We need people in order to practice compassion.

Since their marriage is dedicated toward the happiness of all living beings, those gathered here are the representatives of all living beings.


Reading from the Little Prince – Ashlee, groom's niece
Reading “Falling in Love is Like Owning a Dog” by Taylor Mali – Kyle, man of honor

Honey Ritual

Eva (Ordained Minister):
“Honey is a symbol of the sweetness in life. And so, with this honey, we proclaim this day as a day of great joy and celebration – a day to remember – Your Day. We thank you, Mother Earth, for creating this divine substance, and ask you to bless it, even as you will bless this holy union.”

[Groom feeds honey to bride; bride feeds honey to groom]

“As together you now share this honey, so may you, under Mother Earth’s guidance, in perfect love and devotion to each other, share your lives together, and thereby may you find life’s joys doubly gladdening, its bitterness sweetened, and all things hallowed by time, companionship and love.”

Eva (Ordained Minister):

Troy and Liana are happy today not only because they can share the joy of their love for each other with friends and family, but also because they have the opportunity to express their aspirations for the future.

Troy and Liana, do you pledge to help each other to develop your hearts and minds, cultivating compassion, generosity, ethics, patience, enthusiasm, concentration and wisdom as you age and undergo the various ups and downs of life and to transform them into the path of love, compassion, joy and equanimity?
Bride & Groom: "We do”

Eva (Ordained Minister):
Recognizing that the external conditions in life will not always be smooth and that internally your own minds and emotions will sometimes get stuck in negativity. Do you pledge to see all these circumstances as a challenge to help you grow, to open your hearts, to accept yourselves, and each other; and to generate compassion for others who are suffering? Do you pledge to avoid becoming narrow, closed or opinionated, and to help each other to see various sides of situations?

Bride & Groom: "We do”

Eva (Ordained Minister):
Understanding that just as we are a mystery to ourselves, each other person is also a mystery to us. Do you pledge to seek to understand yourselves, each other, and all living beings, to examine your own minds continually and to regard all the mysteries of life with curiosity and joy?

Bride & Groom: "We do”

Eva (Ordained Minister):
Do you pledge to preserve and enrich your affection for each other, and to share it with all beings? To take the loving feelings you have for one another and your vision of each other's potential and inner beauty as an example and rather than spiraling inwards and becoming self absorbed, to radiate this love outwards to all beings?

Bride & Groom: "We do”

Eva (Ordained Minister):
When it comes time to part, do you pledge to look back at your time together with joy--joy that you met and shared what you have--and acceptance that we cannot hold on to anything forever?

Bride & Groom: "We do”

Eva (Ordained Minister):
Do you pledge to remember the disadvantages of ignorance, anger and clinging attachment, to apply antidotes when these arise in your minds, and to remember the kindness of all other beings and your connection to them? Do you pledge to work for the welfare of others, with all of your compassion, wisdom and skill?

Bride & Groom: "We do”

Eva (Ordained Minister):
Do you pledge to work to develop the wisdom understanding the relative functioning nature of things and the wisdom knowing their deeper way of existence that they are empty of inherent existence? And to remember the laws of cause and effect?

Bride & Groom: "We do”

Eva (Ordained Minister):
Do you pledge day to day, to be patient with yourselves and others, knowing that change comes slowly and gradually?

Bride & Groom: "We do”

Eva (Ordained Minister):
Do you pledge to maintain the awareness that all things are temporary, and to remain optimistic that you can achieve your greatest potential and lasting happiness.

Bride & Groom: "We do”

Eva (Ordained Minister):
Will all of you witnessing this wedding do all in your power to uphold Troy and Liana in their marriage?

People: We will.

Eva (Ordained Minister):
Exchanging of Rings

“The wedding ring is the outward and visible sign of an inward and spiritual bond which unites two loyal hearts in partnership.”

Pronouncement and Blessing

May your home be filled with laughter and the warm embrace of a summer day. May you find peacefulness and beauty, challenge, and satisfaction, humor and insight, healing and renewal, love and wisdom, as in a quiet heart._May you always feel that what you have is enough. I now pronounce you Husband and Wife. You may kiss the bride.

Presenting and Congratulating the Couple

“Ladies and Gentlemen please join me in congratulating Troy and Liana.”

Tuesday, September 16, 2008

Falling in Love is Like Owning a Dog by Taylor Mali

Kyle, the man of honor, read this at the wedding.

First of all, it's a big responsibility,
especially in a city like New York.
So think long and hard before deciding on love.
On the other hand, love gives you a sense of security:
when you're walking down the street late at night
and you have a leash on love
ain't no one going to mess with you.
Because crooks and muggers think love is unpredictable.
Who knows what love could do in its own defense?

On cold winter nights, love is warm.
It lies between you and lives and breathes
and makes funny noises.
Love wakes you up all hours of the night with its needs.
It needs to be fed so it will grow and stay healthy.

Love doesn't like being left alone for long.
But come home and love is always happy to see you.
It may break a few things accidentally in its passion for life,
but you can never be mad at love for long.

Is love good all the time? No! No!
Love can be bad. Bad, love, bad! Very bad love.

Love makes messes.
Love leaves you little surprises here and there.
Love needs lots of cleaning up after.
Sometimes you just want to get love fixed.
Sometimes you want to roll up a piece of newspaper
and swat love on the nose,
not so much to cause pain,
just to let love know Don't you ever do that again!

Sometimes love just wants to go for a nice long walk.
Because love loves exercise.
It runs you around the block and leaves you panting.
It pulls you in several different directions at once,
or winds around and around you
until you're all wound up and can't move.

But love makes you meet people wherever you go.
People who have nothing in common but love
stop and talk to each other on the street.
Throw things away and love will bring them back,
again, and again, and again.
But most of all, love needs love, lots of it.
And in return, love loves you and never stops.

Monday, September 8, 2008

birch bark table number holders

I'm still trying to weed through the rest of the wedding paraphenalia. I have 11 birch bark holders that could use a good home. These were originally from netterb. I will just be asking for shipping (approx. $11). Anyone interested?

Update: They found a good home. Thanks!